How To Stop Being Stupid, Fat, and Ugly

"You're fat."

"You're stupid."

"You're ugly."

If someone else hasn't told you this before at some point in your life, YOU have certainly told yourself this.

IT HURTS. IT'S OFFENSIVE. IT'S WRONG.

AND THERE'S ONLY ONE THING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT.

This one thing is so simple.

NOT EASY.

simple.

It must be understood fully.  It must be practiced daily.  It must become a habit for LIFE.

And in doing so, it will free you from a lifetime of hurt and give you the peace and happiness YOU DESERVE.

and it's this...

DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY.

Everyone sees the world through their own eyes.  What I see and how I see the world is completely different from you.  We each have our own problems that we deal with, and most of the time they are internal problems. Problems we have with ourselves.  Fears.  Inadequacies.  Disappointments.

And from those internal battles in our mind come our words and actions.  And because I can only see the world through my eyes, I can only speak in terms of my view of the world.

SO NOTHING THAT I SAY, OR ANYONE SAYS, IS BECAUSE OF YOU.  IT'S BECAUSE OF THEM.

US.

ME.

If someone calls you fat.  Or stupid. Or ugly.  It's not because they have a problem with you.  It's because they have a problem with themselves.  They have hate, anger, jealousy in their heart, and the only way they know how to ease their suffering is to try and pass it on to you. Their mind is poisoned and they are trying to pass some of that poison on to you.

And on the same token, if someone tells you  you're beautiful. Smart. Talented.  It's not because of you.  It's how they see their own world.

YOU CAN CHOOSE TO BELIEVE THEM.  YOU CAN CHOOSE NOT TO. IT'S UP TO YOU!

But know this...

You CANNOT believe anything anyone says as true.  

Because everyone lies to THEMSELVES.

You know you're smart.  

You know you're beautiful.  

You know you're talented. 

You know you have an unlimited potential to do anything and everything you put your mind to.

You don't need anyone to tell you that.  You don't need anyone to tell you otherwise. 

YOU DON'T NEED TO TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY EVER AGAIN.

And what can we gain from all this?

By practicing this habit every single day, we can live our lives how we want, without the pain of other people's hurtful words.

Without needing the opinions and assurance of others.

Because WE KNOW we can be exactly who we want to be and not care what others think.

we can be free to live life how we choose, regardless of how anyone else judges us.
their opinions don't matter.
because they only see the world through their eyes.
not yours.

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. 

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. 

It is our light, not our darkness

That most frightens us.

We ask ourselves

Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be? 

You are a child of God.

Your playing small 

Does not serve the world. 

There's nothing enlightened about shrinking 

So that other people won't feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine, 

As children do. 

We were born to make manifest 

The glory of God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us; 

It's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, 

We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. 

As we're liberated from our own fear, 

Our presence automatically liberates others."

- Marianne Williamson

You can learn more about 
the agreements you make 
with yourself in Don Miguel Ruiz' 
amazing book 
"The Four Agreements"

Mark Lopez blogs about leadership and personal development in order to strengthen his own leadership skills.  As a Christian, father, husband, and CEO of his own life, Mark looks to empower others so they can lead lives of success, happiness, and personal fulfillment.  To learn more about how Mark can help you live on purpose, e-mail him at thatninjamark@yahoo.com or follow him on Facebook.

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